"Oh give thanks to the LORD; call upon his name; make known his deeds among the peoples!" 1 Chr 16:8
"give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you." 1 Thess 5:18
Trip Lynn and I would like to thank you for your prayers especially during our recent trip to Fairhope, AL to visit with our daughter Susan and her family. The Lord blessed us with safe, uneventful travel, good health, blessings in all the details involving Lynn's care, good weather, and a great time with our family.
The first picture is of Lynn with Mary Evelynn in her lap and Susan in the background.
Father, we thank you for Your blessings which are new each morning. Thank you for blessing us with a great trip to see our family. We thank you that Lynn is feeling better. But we are also aware that we are to give You thanks in all circumstances. So, when things do not seem to be going the way we anticipated or the way we would like, help us to have thankful hearts for Your loving us and providing for us in Your eternal home. Father, thank You for blessing Bill and his family in his recent serious illness. Would You comfort us in our difficult moments. Give us peace that passes all understanding so that we can trust in You for our future. You give us a hope that does not disappoint. Father, bless all those who are hurting right now. Give them grace for the moment and surround them with Your love. We pray these things in Your Son's holy Name, Amen.
Love,
Doug and Lynn and family
"...my cup runneth over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life; and I will dwell in the house of the LORD for ever." Psalm 23 5b-6
Pain Lynn has had a series of rough days lately. She has been bothered with pain that won't let go and continuing allergy problems. We have a doctor's appointment tomorrow. So while each day is hard, we feel the Lord's presence and truly feel that our cup has runneth over!
Visits We have enjoyed visits from Georgia friends this past week. It was nice to see Anne and Bob as well as Janet and daughters Michalee and Rachel. It was great to renew friendships and enjoy good fellowship.
Shepherd Last Tuesday we made a quick trip to Atlanta and back. Lynn's pacer had a loose wire and Atlanta is the closest place to have it repaired. These conductors are about the diameter of a human hair, otherwise I would probably try to repair it myself out of my handy toolbox!! It was a long day and we had to get there by 11:30 AM. Because of the time change that meant for an early morning for Lynn and me as well as the caregivers. Fortunately our next door neighbor, Janice, who is also one of our part-timne caregivers is one of Lynn's drivers. She went along with us to help Doug with the driving.
Grandchildren We had the three boys for a sleep over last Friday night when Emily was spending the night with some girlfriends. I made pancakes for breakfast with Hershey's Kisses on top. We had a great time. When Julie came to pick them up Saturday morning, Luke asked if they could stay one more day and William asked his mother if they could come back next week. I said to Lynn later, isn't it nice that they like to stay with us. Lynn smiled and said, "I guess they do like staying with us because they get away with murder!" We had a good laugh over that one.
Three meds eliminated Sometime ago I mentioned that our new doctor has recommended that we try to get Lynn off of three of her medications. Well, it took a while to taper off one of them, but I am happy to report that Lynn is off those three medications! That is a total of 13 pills she no longer has to take on a daily basis!! Praise the Lord!!
Trip to Fairhope As I said, we have a trip to the doctor tomorrow and hope that he can offer Lynn some relief from the allergies and also the pain especially since we plan to visit Susan's family on the Gulf Coast soon. We would appreciate your prayers for that as traveling with Lynn means relying on lots of equipment and supplies. Of course we realize we are ultimately relying on God's grace even then as we do every other day.
Father, we thank you that you have made our cup overflow! While each day has its challenges and difficulties, You provide for all we need. Father, I am praying right now for all who read this message because I know that each one has a special request. Everyone has some area of need and I would ask that You wrap Your arms around each one and give them the grace they need for the moment and day. Father, some of us may not see healing until we pass into glory and see You face to face. But even so, we ask for peace that passes all understanding so that we may always trust in You and be comforted by Your unending love. Father some have financial trouble that seems all consuming. Would You comfort them and meet them at their point of need. Some have relationship issues that seem insurmountable. Would You heal hurting hearts and give forgiveness where needed. Father, all of us are in need of your forgiveness for our sins. All of us need Your love, comfort, hope and joy. Help us to walk in a way that honors You, for it is in Your Son's Name that we pray, Amen.
Love,
Doug and Lynn and family
"...the joy of the LORD is your strength." Nehemiah 8:10b
Suffering As you might recall, Lynn and I are reading through Ken and Joni Eareckson Tada's book Joni & Ken: and Untold Love Story. We have also been talking about the joy Lynn feels even in the midst of problems associated with her quadriplegia. Chapter nine of their book titled "Unfathomable Depths" begins "Joy runs deeper than despair" quoting Corri Ten Boom. In this chapter, they discuss their going through her bout with cancer. I would like to quote from this chapter regarding suffering. "If there were any lessons to be learned from the years of pain and now cancer; if there were any insights to be gleaned; it was this: suffering had been-and will continue to be- the thing God would use in their lives to draw them closer to Jesus. To show them His power to sustain. And to shine most brightly through them. Brighter than ever before."
Pain Lynn has been bothered by pain most recently. This pain is in her neck and head-actually the only areas of her body where she can identify pain. This pain has bothered her to a greater or lesser extend most days. Also, her allergies have been problematic although, I think, it has now taken a back seat to the pain.
Music/Family Today-Sunday-after worship, we went to Luke's group lesson violin recital. It was amazing. Luke and the others did a wonderful job of playing their memorized songs together and in harmony. It was a joy to be covered by the flood of sound coming from so many violins, violas and cellos. I suppose there were close to 40 students playing at once. You will note the attached pictures of Luke with his violin, a family photo, and a three generation picture of Lynn with her daughter Julie and granddaughter Emily.
Father, we thank you for your many blessings. We thank you that even in the midst of our suffering, You are there with us. In fact, it is especially in the times of suffering that we feel Your presence most keenly. You use these difficult times to bring us to a closer relationship to You. And because of this, we would not want to go back. No, although we do not like the suffering, we count it all JOY to know You more and to love You more. So strengthen us, Father for the assignments You give us. Give us the measure of YOUR grace we need to get through today. And may we always honor You with a faithful walk before You each of our days. Forgive us of our sins, and grant us the ability to lift up our brother or sister who needs encouragement this day. For it is in Your Son's name we pray, even Jesus Christ, Amen.
Love,
Doug and Lynn and family
"In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world." John 16:33b
Lynn and I have been reading "Joni & Ken: An Untold Love Story" just before retiring each night. It is especially meaningful to us-a couple living life with a disability-but it is also worthwhile and, I believe, an encouragement to anyone who struggles. Jesus Himself said that we WILL have tribulation so when it comes, it really should not surprise us. This is one of the great equalizers of life-we all go through trials and tribulations. No one is immune to them. But Jesus gives us hope. He has overcome them! We are not alone. He is there with us to strengthen us and to give us grace for the moment. These trials are not without purpose. They are filtered through His divine and loving hands. "'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the LORD, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11 Chapter I of the Tada's new book begins with a C.S. Lewis quote "God, who foresaw your tribulation has specially armed you to go through it, not without pain but without stain."
Allergies Over the past week Lynn has been very uncomfortable with allergy problems associated with the spring pollen season, I assume. After a visit to the doctor's office and a follow up call, there is apparently nothing more they can do for her, so we are now just attempting to ride it out. She is a trooper, though, and hanging in there the best she can.
Wheelchair We had our appointment at the Vanderbilt rehabilitation center with the wheelchair company representative last week. They showed us some amazing chairs ones that recline in addition to tilting. The tilting is necessary every 30 minutes to avoid pressure sores on her sitting area. The recline option would be an important upgrade for Lynn as she often suffers from low blood pressure (common for quadriplegics) allowing for her to raise her legs and recline her back allowing for better blood flow to her head. We hope and pray that the insurance company will approve this purchase. Also, in this particular chair, Lynn would sit much lower to the ground. She is hopeful that she will be able to see out the van window to see where she is going-and to notify Doug if he has made a wrong turn!!
Warmer weather With the beautiful spring days and warmer weather we have had over the past couple of weeks, I was able to get Lynn out on our deck for the first time. I ordered an additional threshold ramp that I had installed weeks eariler, but this was the first time Lynn was able to make use of it. So she was happy to look out over the back yard and get a different view of our lot.
Soccer In another picture, you will see Lynn with two of her grandchildren, Luke and William that played a soccer game one Saturday. This was her second trip to see her grands playing soccer-a real treat for her!
Sunsets Lynn is a real fan of sunsets, and as it turns out, at this time of year at around 7:15 PM we can look right out our front door to seen some beautiful sunsets.
Sewing In the next picture you will see Lynn with Caleb and Emily who is holding a hassock that she had just finished sewing.
Visit We had a nice visit over the weekend from our Fayetteville friends Marty and Denise. They cooked for us (and the Mayfields) on Saturday night and then worshipped with us on Sunday morning. We attended an organ concert at the Schermerhorn (home of the Nashville Symphony) on Sunday afternoon (last picture). That was very enjoyable and our first trip to downtown Nashville.
We thank you, Father, for your many blessings. Even the trials and tribulations that come through your loving arms are designed to strengthen us in our faith, bring us closer to You, to build our character and to give us a hope for our future. Help us to trust in You, even in the most difficult of times and to have joy in our walk with You. Would you encourage those known only to You right now, who are struggling, to trust in You, and to have a hope in their future for it is in the Name of Your Son, our Savior, we pray, Amen.
Love,
Doug and Lynn and family
"And when they had sung a hymn, they went out to the Mount of Olives." Matthew 26:30
"I will sing of steadfast love and justice; to you, O LORD, I will make music." Psalm 101:1
Happy Easter. Christ is Risen!
Testimony As we were worshipping the Lord this morning at our church, I realized how thankful I was to be able to participate. Then I was reminded that Lynn, who spent her career teaching children how to praise God through song, is no longer able to play her guitar or piano. More than that, she is unable to sing as she once was due to her quadriplegia. I know that is one of the things she misses, and it is one thing the Lord wants us to do-use music for His honor and praise. I also know, Lynn would not want to go back to the way things were. On Wednesday of this past week, we had the opportunity to attend the Bible Study at Liz's and Kristy's (two of our caregivers) church in Nashville. At the end of the study, the pastor asked if Lynn wanted to share anything. Of course, Lynn is always ready to tell others about God's love. So, she told those in attendance that while being confined to a wheelchair is not something she would wish for, she would not want to turn the clock back to the way things were prior to her injury because she believes that this is part of God's plan for her life (God's assignment for her) and that she is in the center of the Lord's will! But for those of us who can, let us worship God with all the joy we can. Lynn will use just as much joy, she will just do it a little more quietly than the rest of us!
Pictures The following pictures show Gram playing cards with Liz and the Mayfield grandchildren, the grandchildren eating pancakes (with chocolate on top) after spending the night at Gram and Grandpop's house, and Caleb resting on Gram's lap as the two of them enjoy some television together!
Father, we thank you for the gift of music. Thank you for the way we are lifted up as we worship You in song. Father, in whatever capacity or talent You give us, help us to use it all for Your honor and glory. Thank you for reminding us at this time of year that You have overcome even death itself. Thank You for giving us each other to encourage one another in our earthly walk in our journey to our heavenly home. Come quickly, Lord Jesus and take us to our heavenly, glorious home for it is in Jesus' holy Name we pray, Amen.
Love, Doug and Lynn and family
"The lines have fallen for me in pleasant places..." Psalm 16:6
Thank you, Pastor Ian for reminding us this morning that when we accept what the Lord has given us, we are truly free and joyful! The above verse hit me hard today where I needed it. Contentment is a glorious thing!
Visit from students from the past
This afternoon we had a visit from some of Lynn's former swimmers. They currently live in Nashville and Lynn coached them years ago when we were all in Cleveland, MS. What a nice time to get reacquainted with two very sweet young ladies. Turns out that one of them had worked as a physical therapist with quadriplegics and was very familiar with Lynn's equipment. She had seen the eye-gaze computer system once before, but Lynn enjoyed showing it off to her with how she uses it on a daily basis.
Visit from Fayetteville friends We had a nice visit from Laurel and Larry this week. Larry and Doug did some he-man bonding visiting trains and Home Depot while Laurel altered many articles of clothing and even made another cape for Lynn!
First sports game for grandchildren You will see in one of the pictures below another first for Lynn. Yesterday (Saturday), Lynn was able to get to a soccer game in which her grandson, William played. You an see her there sitting next to Julie. She had been wanting to do this for years and was so excited to get to see one of her grandchildren play in a game. She is anxious to see William, and all the others play in their particular sports at some time in the not-too-distant future!
This way to the bus stop After the worship service today, Julie and her family came over with lunch. On Lynn's way to the table, Caleb jumped on board Lynn's chair and exclaimed, "This way to the bus stop!!"
First visit to the bottom floor Friday was nice and warm here in Nashville, and Lynn took advantage of the beautiful weather to go outside and around the back of the house. She went into the bottom floor to visit. This was her first opportunity to see how the basement is laid out and furnished. She loved it!
Father, we thank you that You have given us all we need including the ability to be content with our circumstances. Thank You for visits from people from our past who encourage us. Thank you for Pastors and others in our church who encourage us in our walk with You. Thank You that You have given Lynn the ability to enjoy so many of Your gifts even with her limitations. Would You continue to provide for us all that we need, trusting always in Your loving care for us. You know even better than we do what is best for us, so help us to rest in that knowledge of Your faithfulness to us always.
Father, You are so good to us. Give us the grace we need to walk humbly and faithfully before You all of our days, for it is in Jesus' holy name we pray, Amen.
Love,
Doug and Lynn and family
"...but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because suffering produces perseverance; perseverance produces character; character produces hope. And hope does not disappoint us..." Romans 5:3-5
"'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.'" Jeremiah 29:11
Hope Note the common subject of hope in the above two Bible verses. In these uncertain times, it is good to focus on the hope we have in our future with our Lord. Lynn and I have been memorizing the first Bible verse, and granddaughter Maddie recited the second one to us today over the phone. She said, "this is my favorite Bible verse." Thank you, Maddie, for showing us your strong faith.
Activities I try to take pictures of things that I think would be noteworthy for those of you who are interested in what we do on a daily (or weekly) basis. The first one shows Emily holding flowers that Gram bought her to give to her at the conclusion of her piano recital last Sunday. She played very well indeed. Next you will note that we had a brief, but very nice visit from friends of our Cleveland, MS days, Bill and Susan now living in Maine. Then on Friday, Lynn and I went to school because Emily was a finalist in the school's spelling bee. She actually won first place for seventh graders and second place overall. I must say she spelled correctly several words that I would have missed! When we left the school we encountered some snow, so next is a picture of Lynn catching some snowflakes on her tongue. Lastly, on Saturday we went to Caleb's 6th Birthday Party. Here Caleb is sitting proudly on his Gram's lap opening up his presents from her!
Wheelchair Our new wheelchair company is trying to get us a new wheelchair since our current power wheelchair needs lots of repairs and is almost 7 years old. We have an appointment at Vanderbilt next month for evaluation. We will wait and see how things progress, but so far, this company has been very pro-active in their desire to help!
We are settling into our new location well. The Lord has blessed us. However, we do miss old friends, so please let us know if you are ever in the area. Already we can give you a list of references for the Wheeler Bed and Breakfast!
Father, we thank you that regardless of the circumstances around us, You have given us a hope in You. May You keep us ever close to You resting in that hope that does not disappoint! Thank you, Father, for the way You care for us and provide for our every need. Thank you for family and friends who offer encouragement to us in our journey. Would You bless today all those who are suffering from trials of all kinds? Would You give them hope, peace and comfort knowing that You are God. You will not harm us, but desire for us a hope and a future. For it is in Jesus' holy Name we pray, Amen.
Love,
Doug and Lynn and family
I love this verse for its truth about our troubles AND our eternal glory!!! For those of you who have been with us on our journey since the early days following Lynn's wreck may recall that our daughter Julie sent this verse to me and it really ministered to me then and now. Read 16-18. It is excellent.
Worship Lynn and I were asked to give our testimony at the beginning of the worship service this morning. We have been preparing for it for some time. Lynn basically gives her testimony of God's grace after she awoke from seven weeks of sedation and I gave her the news of the car wreck and the extent of her injuries. Psalm 139 (which she had memorized years before came to mind immediately. Verse 16b :"All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be." This gave her great comfort knowing that God was in control of even these events. Then I recap the events of the wreck in which son-in-law Will saved her life by giving her mouth-to-mouth until the ambulance arrived and the seven weeks at the Atlanta Medical Center. The Lord blessed us both with soft hearts towards Him and a hope in our future based on how the Lord had blessed us and our loved ones in the past. We were blessed with the children's choir singing at the beginning of the service and Kristy, one of our caregivers) who also sang beautifully during the service.
Hurting We are reminded time and time again about others who are suffering. Please pray for our former Pastor Jamie and his family in his recent loss, also the Alexanders. Pray for friend Jan van, Bev, and Laura as they have health issues they are dealing with. Then please join us in prayer for a family who came to our church today to hear us because the husband (50 or so) just had a massive stroke that left him paralyzed on one side of his body and unable to speak and read. This happened less than a year ago, and the wife and teenage children are having a hard time dealing with this change in the man they knew as so strong, vibrant, and articulate. May the Lord provide comfort and grace to a hurting family! Pray for expectant mothers in our current church.
Family What a sweet time we had with the Mayfield family and Wheeler family (who visited us for the first time in our new home) and wanted to be present for the worship service. I must admit, that more than a few tears were shed. While Susan and Todd's family were not able to be here, they were certainly missed AND a part of our testimony.
Last weekend we hosted a surprise birthday party for Catha Skinner (for the number of years, you must contact Catha directly!). The Skinners were members of our Fayetteville church when we joined almost 10 years ago. They have since moved to Brentwood, TN and are also good friends of our family the Mayfields. You might notice some familiar faces from our Fayetteville church who came all the way up to surprise their friend! Pictures are of our family and friends.
Father, we thank you for the way you have blessed Lynn and me so richly since her injury. Thank You for our family members and church families-Cleveland, MS, Fayetteville, GA, and Brentwood, TN who have been with us on our journey. Father, would you bless those who are hurting right now with loss, health issues, and various forms of troubles and struggles. Would You provide grace and peace that passes all understanding. Your Word tells us to focus "not on what is seen but what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary and what is unseen is eternal." Grant us all a faithful walk with You all our days, for it is in Your Son's precious Name we pray, Amen.
Love,
Doug and Lynn and family
Helpers So far in addition to Kristy and Liz, we have Julie coming to help two mornings a week and Grace from our new church helping on Sunday mornings. In addition, I am in contact with a nurse who wants to help Friday mornings and during the weekend. So, we are doing well for now, but eventually hope to get a couple of people trained to be caregivers to give Liz and Kristy some time off. We know the Lord will provide the caregivers necessary to give Lynn the best possible care.
New doctor and meds Our new GP has an interest in getting Lynn off of some of her meds. So, we have already eliminated one medication and are in the second stage of tapering her off the second one. This particular medication cannot be eliminated all at once. So far so good. I suppose every medication has undesirable side effects, so we want Lynn on the least amount of medication necessary.
Ventilators We have our new ventilators provided by a supplier here in Nashvile. You might remember that we could not continue with our other vents as our Atlanta supplier did not have an office to supply ventilators in Nashville. The others have been returned. Also, these happen to be newer ones-a more advanced model. There was a little problem when we first hooked Lynn up to this newer model, but the technician was able to resolve the issue in a reasonable amount of time.
Wheelchair We are still working on the wheelchair issue. One company bailed out and the other one is promising to work with us to get new equipment. Seems to be some differences of opinion as to whether or not insurance will pay for another one. This present company seems to be responsive to us. We are at the mercy of so many other people when it comes to getting something done, and I am not the most patient person and, in many cases, want to just be able to fix things myself. I know the Lord is working on me in this area.
Testimony Lynn and I have been asked by our new church family to share our testimony of suffering and God's sovereignty. As we prepare for this, our prayer is that the Lord will be honored and lifted up.
Pictures You will see Lynn shopping at Target yesterday (Saturday). Notice that there are nine bags of Hersey's Kisses-nine grandchildren-get the idea? The other one is of Luke after his violin recital. We were honored to be able to get to see Luke perform. He did a wonderful job. We are enjoying being in church with Julie's family and being able to get together with them often. Also, we have enjoyed getting to know members of our new church family, too. They have been faithful about bringing meals over to us, and we also have enjoyed getting to know friends of Bob and Anne who have been bringing a meal by and eating with us each week.
"Streams in the Desert" Lynn and I have been reading Streams in the Desert again at night before we retire. I like the one for January 31. "He gives quietness in the midst of the raging storm. As we sail the lake with Him, reaching deep water and far from land. suddenly, under the midnight sky, a mighty storm sweeps down. Earth and hell seem mobilized against us, and each wave threatens to overwhelm our boat. Then He rises from His sleep and rebukes the wind and the waves. He waves His hand, signaling the end of the raging tempest and the beginning of the restful calm...'Quiet! Be still!' (Mark 4:39). Can you hear it? 'He giveth quietness' -quietness even in he midst of losing our inner strength and comforts. Sometimes He removes these because we make too much of hem. We are tempted to look at our joys, pleasures, passions, or our dreams, with too much self-satisfaction. Then through His gracious love He withdraws them, leading us to distinguish between them and Himself. He draws near and whispers the assurance of His presence, bringing an infinite calm to keep our assurance of His presence, bringing an infinite calm to keep our hearts and minds. 'He giveth quietness.'"
Father, we thank you for taking us through the storms of life bringing us out safely on the other side. While the seas roar and the winds blow, they are always under Your control. Use these trials for strengthening us and bringing us closer to You. Thank You for sending Your loving hands to guide us and for sending Your people to encourage us. Keep us ever faithful to You knowing that You love us and desire only our good for eternity. We pray that as we loose our grip on earthly things, You will give us more of You, for it is in Your Son's Name we pray, Amen.
Blessings and love,
Doug and Lynn and family
"But grace was given to each one of us according to the measure of Christ's gift." Eph 4:7
Lynn told me this weekend that she had read a devotional by Joni that encouraged her. Some people say they are amazed that Lynn can smile and have a joyful countenance while she is paralyzed. But she said that she never thought that she would be a quadriplegic prior to the car wreck and would have probably been afraid of the idea. But God did not give her grace to be a quadriplegic until she was one. It makes sense doesn't it? Why would we need grace ahead of time? So God gives us grace for our days as we need it. Now that Lynn is a quad, she wants to do all for God's glory just as she did previously.
Thank you Thank you for your prayers regarding our move. We are doing well. Lynn has seen two doctors so far, her pulmonologist and her internest. We have talked with one respiratory company regarding her ventilators and related supplies and they are researching to see whether or not they can supply us with everything that we need. We do not yet have a wheelchair company, so we covet your prayers as we search out these various suppliers, that the Lord would give us wisdom and direction, and probably, for Doug, patience as we meet with various folks and discuss Lynn's needs. Lynn has her eye-gaze computer up and running and is gradually getting her office set up and organized.
Caregivers So far we have Doug, Liz, Kristy, and Juiie helping with Lynn's care. We are still looking for others to help out on a part-time basis. But things are going well. God has provided everything that we need!!
Church
Our Brentwood church family has reached out to us by providing meals, encouragement, etc. Also, we have been invited into Julie and Will's small group which meets at their house on Wednesday evenings. Please know that we miss our Fayetteville church and friends, but that the church is universal and we are thankful for that. So we are making new friends while missing old ones!
Spend the night party Since the children do not have school tomorrow (Monday), we have the four Mayfield children spending the night with us. We had a pizza party earlier, now they are getting ready for bed as Liz is getting Lynn ready for bed. Luke likes to sit in Gram's lap during church and while at the house. Gram does not mind one little bit!
You will see pictures taken today of the four grandchildren climbing the tree out in our front yard, Lynn with the grandchildren all eating pizza, and Emily displaying the Volkswagon camper Lego bus that she and other members of the Mayfield family put together over the past couple of weeks.
Father, we thank you that you do give us grace that is sufficient for our days and needs. Would you use us to display your love and truths to a watching world. Give us patience during our trials and a joyful countenance so that others would see You and Your strength in our weakness. Thank you, Father, for providing us with friends and church family to strengthen us and encourage us in our walk wherever You place us. Help us to be a blessing to others as they are to us. Forgive us of our sins, we pray, in Jesus' holy Name, Amen.
Love,
Doug and Lynn and family
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